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Folks Of Interest Loss of a mentor of sorts....

Discussion in 'The Hokey Ass Message Board' started by 1stGrumpy, Mar 6, 2019.

  1. Yesterday, I lost my brother. He was 7 years older than me and it was one month shy of his 78th birthday. He was the one that got me interested in hot rods and customs, first with model cars and then with the real deal. He used to keep a little file box with those little 3 X 5 cards, one card for each car or pickup that had his eye at that moment, listing all the modifications he planned on doing. All followed the same theme, nosed and decked, lowered slightly in the front, louvered hood, dual glasspacks and so on. He maintained his little file up until he went into the Army in '58.

    He was the one that taught me how to drive in his '53 Pontiac, straight 8 and 3 on the tree. He was the one that borrowed money from me and would repay me by giving me one of his cars. First it was a 1947 Chrysler Windsor with a flathead six and semi automatic Fluid Drive transmission. Second was a 1956 Chevy Belair 2 door hardtop with a 265 and powerglide. He was the one that would buy me and my friends our beer on Friday nights, of course we had to pay for it and it usually cost us an extra quart of beer for him. He was the one that I looked up to. Life will be different now, I never knew a day that he wasn't around physically or somewhere in the back of my mind. He will be missed....
    Last edited: Mar 6, 2019
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  2. Gotgas
    Joined: Jul 22, 2004
    Posts: 6,742

    from DFW USA

    Sounds like a great guy. I'm sorry for your loss.
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  3. 40ragtopdown
    Joined: Jan 13, 2015
    Posts: 1,333


    Sorry to hear this our prayers are with you and your family.
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  4. mopacltd
    Joined: Nov 11, 2008
    Posts: 730


    I can't imagine losing my brother! Sounds like your brother was your best friend also. Cherish the memories. I am so sorry for your loss. Rest in peace, Big Brother
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  5. saltflats
    Joined: Aug 14, 2007
    Posts: 9,562

    from Missouri

    Sorry to hear of your loss. :(
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  6. loudbang
    Joined: Jul 23, 2013
    Posts: 23,621


    Sorry to hear that. :( May he rest in peace.
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  7. oldiron 440
    Joined: Dec 12, 2018
    Posts: 1,034

    oldiron 440

    The wanting to give him a call will never leave you, I feel for you.
    Take care
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  8. lumpy 63
    Joined: Aug 2, 2010
    Posts: 995

    lumpy 63

    Very sorry for your loss, I have two brothers , both of em piss me off but life without either would suck. Do you still have the little file box?
  9. belair
    Joined: Jul 10, 2006
    Posts: 8,120


    Sorry for your loss, man.
  10. GordonC
    Joined: Mar 6, 2006
    Posts: 1,626


    Sorry to hear of your loss. I have 3 brothers and thankfully they are still here.
  11. Chavezk21
    Joined: Jan 3, 2013
    Posts: 580


    My condolences. I cant imagine losing my brother.
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  12. Sorry to hear you lost your brother.A special bond you'll always remember and sadly miss.
  13. Nicholas Coe
    Joined: Jul 5, 2017
    Posts: 516

    Nicholas Coe
    from Tontitown

    My condolences to you and your family. I know those words don't mean much right now. Hopefully soon, all the great memories will be more frequent than the sad ones.

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  14. Unique Rustorations
    Joined: Nov 15, 2018
    Posts: 265

    Unique Rustorations

    I also share in the others here and I am saddened by your loss, however, you have cherished memories that I don’t have with my older brother who also started me on my automotive career. While we have never lived too far from each other I rarely have seen or talked to him more than once or twice a year, he has missed all of my important events in my life and has made a lot of plans with me to cancel right before the event. Everything else was more important than his little brother. I accepted this many years ago and hold no bad feelings against him but reading your post made a lot of this come back and I felt you were lucky to have what I would have loved to have had. I already said a prayer for you before the send button was pressed. Regards, Randy

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  15. mopacltd
    Joined: Nov 11, 2008
    Posts: 730


    Randy, that is a tough nut to swallow. May God bless you and hope you and your brother will reunite.
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  16. Mr48chev
    Joined: Dec 28, 2007
    Posts: 25,660


    Sorry for your loss.
  17. rd martin
    Joined: Nov 14, 2006
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    rd martin
    from indiana

    grumpy, its great that you at least have those memories.i would get another one of those file boxes , and when you think of those , write them down and put them in that box. so you have the good times for the future. randy, its funny, one thing that a lot of people have in common, very few people take enuff time with family. im guilty, im on the phone with my son a lot, but a lot of the time he wont answer. it is sad. I guess your going to have a sit down with your brother.and I with my son.
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    Joined: Sep 18, 2007
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    Grumpy I'm so very sorry for the loss of your brother. Prayers for you and your family
  19. Thank you all for your thoughts and prayers... they mean a lot.

    No I don't lumpy. I hadn't thought about it in years, I don't know what may of become of it.

    Thank you Randy for your condolences and prayers.

    I didn't mean to paint a picture that was all roses and sunshine, there was a lot of times when we wouldn't see each other or talk for extended periods of time, not out of anger or indifference but more out of our lives just going in different directions, being busy with work and family. But we shared the same blood, as do you with your brother and that's a bond that can never be broken.
    Last edited: Mar 7, 2019
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  20. May he RIP. Sorry to hear.....
  21. Moon50F3
    Joined: Sep 18, 2014
    Posts: 173


    My condolences to you and your family. Kinda always wish I had a brother.
  22. Tim
    Joined: Mar 2, 2001
    Posts: 10,025

    from Raytown Mo

    Sorry man :/
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  23. WB69
    Joined: Dec 7, 2008
    Posts: 884


    Sorry to hear of the loss of your brother. My Dad was my mentor and go too. My brother and I live in totally different worlds than my Dad and I. But, wouldn't want to loose him! His index cards would be so cool to have to remember him by if you had them.
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  24. Grumpy so sorry to hear this. My condolences to you & your family. I know what it means to lose a family brother/sister or your mom or dad.
  25. Stogy
    Joined: Feb 10, 2007
    Posts: 13,646


    Condolences to you @1stGrumpy and your family on such a very personal loss...of a Brother, Mentor and Fellow Hotrodder.
  26. 6inarow
    Joined: Jan 24, 2007
    Posts: 2,167


    Sorry to read this. Peace to you. I have 2 brothers and they sound like yours
  27. Z06-LITE
    Joined: Nov 13, 2010
    Posts: 153


    I am so sorry for the loss of your brother. I really don't know what you are feeling as I am an only child. I always wished for a brother or sister, but it wasn't to be. God bless and take care of you now and the future.
  28. Sorry for your loss, prayers out to you and family.
  29. Shutter Speed
    Joined: Feb 2, 2017
    Posts: 526

    Shutter Speed

    And you will carry on little Brother, with all those memories in tow...filed safely away in your own index box. Peace to you. Art
  30. Bummer to hear this, man. Cherish the good memories.

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