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Discussion in 'The Hokey Ass Message Board' started by B.A.KING, Jul 14, 2019.

  1. B.A.KING
    Joined: Apr 6, 2005
    Posts: 3,790


    I debated about posting this, but decided to go on and do it.
    I'm sure most of us have the "car show friend", the one we see once, maybe twice a year.
    This morning i got a call that a friend i had met several years ago at the Hot Rod reunion had passed away.Really shook me up.
    I saw Tim once maybe twice a year .Maybe 3 times if he went to Louisville. About 3 years ago he said his heart was failing him. Didn't know if he would make it the HRR.He always called me ALABAMA. We parked beside him several years ago, been friends ever since.
    I got to know most of his family. Last year he brought me a 59 el Camino die castthat looked just like my new one.So badly did i want to get it up there so he could see it . I didn't make it.His son came by and told me he must really like you cause he never got rid of his die cast. I always wondered if he would be there each year. He knew where I parked and always came by to talk. Ask me if i retired yet, how things were going, and always tell some jokes. Man could he tell jokes!! I didn't know until today that he would get out of his hospital bed to come to show to see friends. I guess my point is this, I'm not sure i have a point but this really rattled me, Make sure to shake those car show's friend's hand, hug em if have to and tell them your glad you know them, glad your friends. I regret not calling and checking on him, I know better. The HRR just wont be the same without seeing him there. Sorry for the rambling.
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  2. It's a part of life, I have met a lot of people that have become those friends you see once or twice a year, you stay at the same motels, shoot the breeze in the parking lot,see each other at the show year after year and then you fid out something happen that severs the friendship, be it a illness or death, we are getting older and it's inevitable.

    It's rare in any other hobby or past time that people form friendships that last for decademost of us can empathize with you. HRP
  3. Rickybop
    Joined: May 23, 2008
    Posts: 7,305

    from Michigan

    No apologies, BA.
    Glad you posted so we can stand by you. I'm very sorry you lost your friend. Think of the good times. But that's what makes it so hard to lose them... the good times.
    God bless.

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  4. Rickybop
    Joined: May 23, 2008
    Posts: 7,305

    from Michigan

    By the way...
    Whether we have regrets about what wasn't said or done...
    He knew you cared.

    Sent from my VS835 using The H.A.M.B. mobile app

  5. oldiron 440
    Joined: Dec 12, 2018
    Posts: 2,400

    oldiron 440

    That's the part of our hobby that has value........the part that makes us better people.
  6. Jalopy Joker
    Joined: Sep 3, 2006
    Posts: 27,423

    Jalopy Joker

    best part is that you guys did meet up and got to know one another - sincere sympathy goes out to his Family, yourself and the rest of his friends
  7. primed34
    Joined: Feb 3, 2007
    Posts: 1,201


    Hang in there. Just as much about the people as the cars.
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  8. 50 customcoupe
    Joined: May 8, 2011
    Posts: 412

    50 customcoupe

    Thank You for posting this. I just lost two friends in the last two weeks I that I didn't go see often enough. Prayers for you and your friends family. Ray in Kentucky.
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  9. Sorry to hear this BA. I know the feeling. It will be with you for some time. Last friend I lost still haunts me every time I go to a car show.
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  10. pitman
    Joined: May 14, 2006
    Posts: 5,107


    Thanks B.A. for the reminder.
    You tell one good story about the
    friends in our journey, esp. in
    the craft. Thanks.
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  11. engine138
    Joined: Oct 5, 2007
    Posts: 2,056

    from Commack NY

    Sorry for the loss but always remember all the good times RIP TIM
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  12. Gman0046
    Joined: Jul 24, 2005
    Posts: 6,260


    Great post BA. RIP Tim.
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  13. I have the same stories. They are some of the most valuable stories in my life. Seldom do we know how we affect people. That's why it's so important to be the best we can everyday. :)
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  14. Not a damn thing to be sorry for, buddy. Losing friends is almost as hard as losing family.

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  15. Yep....the twin football jocks that both shared driving in a Pinto in High School were distant friends. Bob - the first to pass at 43 had a late 60's Chevy pick up he'd got just a year or so after graduation an kept it going after wrecking it a time or two.. Bill his twin inherited it and we kinda started meeting up at the car shows about 10 years ago. Bill was getting into it pretty good and making repairs/upgrades as he had a little better cash flow. We were starting to good friends - celebrating his 52 birthday shortly before his death. The truck was reluctantly passed into the hands of the youngest son - who thought it might be a curse. He's located about an hour away but hope that old Chevy is still being cared for. Sorry to hear of your loss of camaraderie .
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  16. trollst
    Joined: Jan 27, 2012
    Posts: 2,068


    Yup, Hougen Park is coming, it's like old home week there, lots of familiar faces, some I only see there. BC guys, see you there.
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  17. The37Kid
    Joined: Apr 30, 2004
    Posts: 28,405


    Sorry for your loss, those once a year meetings are a lot more special than we think until the person is gone. The list of people we miss is now longer than the ones we can still shake hands with.

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  18. Stogy
    Joined: Feb 10, 2007
    Posts: 21,178


    @B.A.KING...sorry about the loss of your distant passes us by one by one...we can't outrun it...I just read a death notice in the local paper and many times a familiar name pops up and it gives me pause to remember...I am sure your doing the doesn't make it any easier but it is the least we can do as we wish them Peace on the other side...

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  19. belair
    Joined: Jul 10, 2006
    Posts: 8,761


    Thanks B.A. We need reminding that it's about the people, not the cars. Sorry for the loss of your friend.
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  20. catdad49
    Joined: Sep 25, 2005
    Posts: 5,226


    B.A., thanks for sharing your thoughts and feelings, it's part of the grieving process. Sharing your passions with others of the same ilk is a great part of life. The "good times" as they say. When one of yours is lost, it is a sad time, but do you regret the experience? Maybe initially, but then you push that aside and remember the good. Life Is Good, Carp.
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  21. Black_Sheep
    Joined: May 22, 2010
    Posts: 1,269


    We gather every year at Back to the 50’s to drink a toast to friends that have passed, sadly the list continues to grow with each passing year...
  22. That is a reason for me to go to Hershey every fall. I see some people only once a year, but we are happy to see each other again. Since I moved to Pennsylvania almost 2 years ago, I still go to the Early Ford V-8 meet in Fitchburg, Mass. Just to see old friends, and to let them know that I haven't forgotten them.
  23. I think many, many of us feel as you do - say or do all you want, it’s tough to swallow regardless. I lost 3 very good car buds last year - thinking of the good times and all the stories are all that is left so I try and make the best of it. Some days it ain’t easy I know ....

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