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Ever try to help somebody?

Discussion in 'The Hokey Ass Message Board' started by lowrodderDon, Feb 3, 2009.

  1. lowrodderDon
    Joined: Dec 7, 2007
    Posts: 257


    Have you ever tried to help a guy out and the whole thing turns into a holy freakin mess? Every once in a while I'll turn a trick( yeah like a crack whore) to make a buck to get some funds for my hotrods. So I try to patch this car back together for this guys 16 year old kid (cause he don't want to go through insurance) and it has been one issue after another. Salvage yards, wrong parts, bad previous repairs, changed minds because of money etc? Ever do this? Am I alone, lemmie hear it.
  2. B.A.KING
    Joined: Apr 6, 2005
    Posts: 3,720


    jus remember,"no good deed goes unpunished" or so i've been told
  3. V4F
    Joined: Aug 8, 2008
    Posts: 4,163

    from middle ca.

    boy do i know what you mean !!! every time i help someone , im the bad guy . had a friend say he needed some parts to finish his "A" , so i gave him a bunch of stuff . he sold the stuff ! no more giving to him ....... steve ... some peoples kids !
  4. You guys got that right!!!
    I keep hoping all the karma points I keep collecting are gonna be worth something some day and I can cash them in if i ever need to. But, I'm not holding my breath! Yeah, I still help out peaple with their crap junk cars. I got a 94 chev truck in the yard now with a blown head gasket that Im helping out with. I feel like the shoe maker who's too busy making shoes for everybody but himself.
    Last edited: Feb 3, 2009

  5. Fitysix
    Joined: Sep 17, 2006
    Posts: 308

    from Md.

    Sometimes it's hard to do the right thing.
  6. Usually it sucks to do somebody a "favor".They always want more than you give.Especially when it's for free.:mad:
  7. Weeks46
    Joined: Jul 11, 2008
    Posts: 1,495


    Do more than whats expected and bring things back better then when you took it, thats my saying when I help/lend someone something. Whether it be help, tools, parts. They know when I help em' its expected back or they stand to lose more then I. Karma.-Weeks
  8. lowrodderDon
    Joined: Dec 7, 2007
    Posts: 257


    Thank the lord for Jim Beam, and the H.A.M.B. it makes the world better.
  9. The37Kid
    Joined: Apr 30, 2004
    Posts: 27,906


    Along the lines of listing crap on eBay for a friend or a friends wife, "too complicated for us, but you're good at it, right". They tell ya what they want for a half dozen items. That gizmo thay wanted $100.00 for sells for $160.00, two weeks later a "good friend" of theirs says it was worth $250. and I sold it too cheep! End of that Mr. Helpful deal.
  10. Johnny1290
    Joined: Apr 20, 2006
    Posts: 2,834


    A friend of mine had it right, I think , when he said he helps people out with their cars, but they'll turn on you in an instant when there's a problem.

    Very true.
  11. povertyflats
    Joined: Jan 8, 2007
    Posts: 8,281

    from Missouri

    No kidding!!! I hate selling stuff for other people but they always talk me into it "because I'm good at it". Sold an item for a guy he was hoping to get $1,000 for and got $3000. First words out of his mouth "do you think we sold it too cheap?"
  12. Ghost28
    Joined: Nov 23, 2008
    Posts: 3,189


    Yeah I took in a 51 merc 4 door project. For a friend, Total custom make over with a list of all we were going to do, and a agreed on price he would pay. Except every time he came over to check on progress he would say what about if we did this. I always told him it could be done and actually threw a few extras in until it got way out of hand. That's when I told him that what I meant was that I was ABLE to do any thing extra. But we had to adjust the price. I guess that solved the problem. Except after I finished the agreed on items he pulled the car out of my shop. And proceeded to bad mouth me, and claimed he did most the work himself. He paid for it so let him claim it I guess. WAS A GOOD FRIEND...ghost
  13. cheapskate
    Joined: Jan 6, 2009
    Posts: 58


    If you help someone when they are in trouble, they will never forget you the next time they are in trouble.
  14. attastude
    Joined: Nov 30, 2008
    Posts: 235


    just keep trying to help people, some will return the favor, some will not appreciate your efforts. you will make some good friends, and they hopefully will out number the others.
  15. Usually never works that way.And the blame always comes back to you.And I know,I've always tried to help somebody in good faith.
  16. Sir Woosh
    Joined: Dec 1, 2008
    Posts: 2,273

    Sir Woosh

    Been there, done that. Gone way out of the way only to get bitten. But, there are still plenty of good friends and rodders out there to make up for it. Just remember. Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me. Old rule, but still right. Hambers prove that good guys still exist...................
  17. SanfordAndWife
    Joined: Nov 28, 2008
    Posts: 318

    from Michigan

    You are not alone! We are ALWAYS helping people out. And we get stung! But, I know God will bless us for it! The Bible says "Vengeance is mine".

  18. when i run my shop I got involved in a few deals and sometimes you have to throw out a car and let them deal with it themselves
    I was building[finally had to do the design too]:mad: a roadster for a guy and the front axle from speedway had caster stagger, it became my problem... I run low on customer work and asked him to contribute to light bill { $20 would have helped, we worked all at nights on his car and he said no way, next day he found it in my driveway, he put it in his warehouse and it got flooded and ruined last i heard]

    SO DONT LET OTHER peoples problems become your problem:eek:
  19. Ghost28
    Joined: Nov 23, 2008
    Posts: 3,189


    Yeah I agree with ya. Most of the projects done in my shop now are just hobbies between friends. And the favors and friendship. Always come back twice to ya. Everyone chips in on the utilities or supplies or BEER or BEER or did I say BEER...ghost
  20. Unless you know the person and sometimes that doesn't even work you can't always be the GOOD GUY. Good guys don't always win.
  21. Bluedscrewed&tattooed
    Joined: Feb 25, 2007
    Posts: 112

    from AUSTIN,TX

    When I opened my first shop I tried to give people I new, better than good deals and every time it blew up in my face, give people cost on parts or what ever. Then the old timer that ran the shop next to me came over and said
    "never give a deal, always charge a full but fair price" "favors or good deals always go bad". But i'm still a sucker for my buddy's, always try to help out. Im a slow learner. Comes with owning a shop. But I never lend tools anymore.:)
  22. I can pretty much tell if your an asshole within the first 20 seconds if you open your mouth. That being said I seldom do any side work because of the amount of assholes there are....the ratio isn,t in my favour. On the other hand in the last 2 weeks I have bought 2 trade ins and just called my junkyard buddy to come get them free of charge. He clears out farms etc and when there are vintage cars I,m the first person he calls! Great things come to he who waits.....
  23. In a word;YES! Does it come back to bite you in the a** sometimes? DEFINITELY! Will you do it again? YES! Why? BECAUSE WE CAN!

    A couple of words of wisdom I learned long ago:

    Don't EVER lend anyone money,tools,your girlfriend,etc.with the expectation of getting it back(well maybe your girlfriend).

    Don't ever go into business with a friend or(especially)a relative.That is the quickest way to lose a friend or a relative(unless that was your intent).

    I could go on but you all know the rest.
  24. 1oldtimer
    Joined: Aug 21, 2003
    Posts: 7,892


    i don't have friends.......i just help strangers :).
  25. The37Kid
    Joined: Apr 30, 2004
    Posts: 27,906


    Shit! I thought I'd blocked that out of my memory! 50-50 partnership on a garagefull of prewar car parts. I got to store them, load them in my truck and take them to flea markets, take the unsold parts home and re store them. Answer phone calls, ship stuff that sold in Hemmings ( this was a LONG time ago) than split the sale with my EXfriend. :mad:
  26. Muttley
    Joined: Nov 30, 2003
    Posts: 18,449


    For some unknown reason I got labeled as "the computer guy" by some of the local car guys (why I have no idea, I dont really know much about them). Now just about every time I stop by a friends house just to see whats up I get asked to list stuff on ebay or Craigslist for them. It sucks and I wont do it anymore, I spend enough time on the computer doing my own crap.
  27. I've heard of "no good deed, goes unpunished" and I live by it. But there is another one that applies to some people you try to help "you can't help someone, who doesn't want to help themself."
  28. hamiltonintakes
    Joined: Jan 28, 2009
    Posts: 79

    from Chico, CA

    Happened to me years ago also, when I actually fixed computers for a living. I come home from fixing computers, then people would call and ask me to fix computers. I hated it. I just wanted to work on my cars. Pissed off a couple "friends" when I started saying that I was going to have to charge them, but everything was so much better.
  29. In my Previous life I used to help people for Free thinking they would come around and return the Favor. That "NEVER HAPPENED", then I changed and became a Cash only Ass Hole. Funny thing, I always had money to pay for things I couldn't do for myself. So life went on and I found the H.A.M.B. I decided a while back to try again to be a "NICE Guy" again. After all I'm getting Older and a Few friends might not hurt. What I re-learned is people will always come for the 'Free Shit" only now they want it on there time frame, at there place, and forget about "it comes back" still. Lately it's been advice Only on how to do it on your own since I've gotten to this point doing it alone. I never seem to lack for work as long as I do what I say when I say and keep it Pay before it goes. The Good Buddy thing always seems to end at the Cash Redgister and I never have a case of Raw Ass. I can still come here and be a nice Guy and never feel taken advantage of. If I think it's happening I can just Log Out.
    The Wizzard
  30. lentz automotive
    Joined: Jan 31, 2009
    Posts: 99

    lentz automotive

    i own a automotive repair shop also - i made a rule a long time ago that works for me and my friends understand.
    if you want a cheap deal or credit we will discuss it over christmas dinner. they are probably not gonna be there - so you have your answer.

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