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Discussion in 'The Hokey Ass Message Board' started by (BlueOval), Sep 8, 2011.

  1. stangman05gt
    Joined: Mar 12, 2011
    Posts: 171

    stangman05gt
    Member
    from illinois

    Sorry for the loss my friend. My prayers are with you and your children.
     
  2. I am so, so very sorry. Words cannot convey. I am welled up typing this.

    James,

    May God watch over and protect you and your children. May He give you the strength to carry on through your days and ease your pain at night. It is by His Grace that will keep you moving forward, as difficult as it may seem. May God's Love wash down upon you and your children, keep you safe, and give you the courage to face another day. God called Gretchen home to ease her pain, it is through God's Grace that Gretchen is shining down upon you, and will be, for all of your days.

    Amen






    Let's see what we can do to get this going

    Jim
     
  3. truckedup 28
    Joined: Nov 7, 2006
    Posts: 813

    truckedup 28
    Member

    sorry for your loss. i'm game to send him a buk or two to help a brother out....jones
     
  4. MemphisRaines
    Joined: Jun 9, 2011
    Posts: 96

    MemphisRaines
    Member
    from Texas

    I am VERY VERY Sorry to hear of your loss.
     
  5. 34hemipu
    Joined: Jan 12, 2006
    Posts: 145

    34hemipu
    Member

    My prayers go out to you and your family. I can relate it will be 4 years this Sunday that I lost mine . I still choke .

    Take care , Mike
     
  6. 32-3 WINDOW
    Joined: Nov 23, 2005
    Posts: 1,696

    32-3 WINDOW
    Member
    from utah

    i set here with teary eyes writing this , keep your head up and take care of the little ones, your wife and there mother are with you in spirit and memories , your family are in our prayers
     
  7. delaware1930
    Joined: Jan 20, 2011
    Posts: 105

    delaware1930
    Member
    from Delaware

    sorry, to hear god speed.
     
  8. breeder
    Joined: Jul 13, 2005
    Posts: 10,948

    breeder
    Member Emeritus

    My family is and will be praying for you and your 3 kiddos.time doesn't heal all wounds, but the power of prayer will.
    So very sorry for your loss.
    Todd
     
  9. bamaheel
    Joined: Apr 5, 2009
    Posts: 76

    bamaheel
    Member

    My deepest condolences, I could not imagine what you are going through. We are close to the same age and I have 4 little ones - we will all be praying for all of you.
     
  10. 3rd Gen Hot Rodder
    Joined: Jan 8, 2009
    Posts: 405

    3rd Gen Hot Rodder
    Member
    from Indiana

    Praying for you and your family James.
     
  11. James,
    I have come across this thread a couple of times and given some thought as to what I could say to you. I don't take the loss of a friend lightly, I guess because of my age, and didn't want to post some frivolous BS. My lady is my closest friend and I suppose that yours is no different.

    If my lady left I don't know what I would do with myself, I would just be lost. I cannot even imagine what it would be like at your age and with kids still in the house. I feel deeply for you my friend.

    I don't know that I would peddle all my old car stuff as that is all I would have left but I am sure that you have good reason to do so. I would suggest that you give yourself some time to reflect before doing anything that you may regret in the future.

    Do keep your children close they need you but probably not as much as you need them at this time in your life. Remember that you have not lost everything there are still good memories to be made with your family. Make them and in your old age you will have them to fall back on.

    Like I said I do feel for you. If there is anything in the world that I can do for you I am only a PM away.
     
  12. mlagusis
    Joined: Oct 11, 2009
    Posts: 1,128

    mlagusis
    Member

    soory for you and your kids loss. Sounds like you are doing the right thing by focusing on your kids right now.
     
  13. 03GMCSonoma
    Joined: Jan 15, 2011
    Posts: 314

    03GMCSonoma
    Member

    Sorry to hear of your loss. I lost my wife of 44 years a couple years ago. I know what you are going through but you are the only one that really knows what you are feeling. There is a grief bookstore in Omaha that has some good books to read. One of them is titled "Grief: What is it and how to deal with it". Another one with how to take care of yourself. The first one deals with possible feelings you may have and suggested ways to deal with them. I found it gave me some confidence that I was doing OK as I was already dealing with the loss in a way the author thought was appropriate. When people would ask how I was doing, when I said I was doing OK, I really was. This is a very difficult time for you and you are the only one who know how you feel.

    You may want to consider joining a support group within your church or other organization. It will help to talk about your loss with others who have lost their loved ones. Time is your friend.

    The link to the bookstore is www.centering.org. You can read the thumbnail sketch of each book to see whether you would like it or not. I hope this will help ease your pain.

    Take care.


    Bob
     
  14. Fiddytree
    Joined: Sep 7, 2008
    Posts: 204

    Fiddytree
    Member
    from Durango

    Well, poo.

    Hope you can find some strength & peace . . .
     
  15. Man, I can't think of anything to say that might comfort you other than "I'm sorry". From the photo she looked like a very beautiful woman, and you can just tell that she had joy in her heart from looking at that smile. Thank you for being a part of that joy that she had in her heart and for sticking with her through her battle. I'm sure that you made her life better and made her smile a lot, and that is everything.

    I kinda have to agree with some of these other guys and gals though... Don't be too hasty to get rid of the things that you shared together, unless you absolutely have to. If they remind you of her, then enjoy the memories and miss her a lot and cry a little every now & then. It's ok. Hold on to the kids and your friends and family too.

    I don't know your situation, but if you're just selling your stuff to pay off crazy hospital bills, you'd be surprised at what they'll take if you offer to settle with them quickly. I know that it is just "old car stuff" but when my wife was hospitalized for over a month and I had crappy insurance, they settled for a cash payment of about 1/3 of the total (got it in writing first). I borrowed the money and was much better off in the long run.

    You'll be in our prayers!!!!
     
  16. kingpins
    Joined: Apr 27, 2009
    Posts: 623

    kingpins
    Member

    wow...sorry to hear about your situation. i hope everything will turn out ok with you and your kids. alot of people here care, let us know what we can do. good luck and take care.
     
  17. Ford52PU
    Joined: Jan 31, 2007
    Posts: 519

    Ford52PU
    Member
    from PA

    so very sorry on the loss of your wife. tough to put into words anything that could express feeling on that kind of loss. So very sorry.
     
  18. kingpins
    Joined: Apr 27, 2009
    Posts: 623

    kingpins
    Member

    there are alot of people that would like to help you out including me , post your paypal and keep your car.
     
  19. Russco
    Joined: Nov 27, 2005
    Posts: 4,327

    Russco
    Member
    from Central IL

    Prayers to you and your family
     
  20. No words can explain what you must be feeling. I am truly sorry for your loss. I am very similar in age and recently married, I cannot imagine how you are feeling and what you are having to go through... I am not very religious, but please God bless you and your family.
     
  21. motoandy
    Joined: Sep 19, 2007
    Posts: 3,334

    motoandy
    Member
    from MB, SC

    Agreed. PM me an address please. The car could help in the healing process. Pay it forward!
     
  22. I'm so sorry to hear this,James! I think I met her once at LARS or maybe it was another show. That's just terrible news. I know there's nothing I can say to releave your pain,but I hope you can keep your kids spirits up. It's gonna be a rough one.
    WOW...I feel for you buddy.
    Cancer just sucks!!!!!!
     
  23. skids 56
    Joined: Mar 20, 2011
    Posts: 8

    skids 56
    Member

    Stay strong my brother, your kids need you now more than ever at this time. Our thoughts and prayers are with you. Take care and God Bless....
     
  24. I'm very sorry for your loss. There are no words I can find for you. The Lord watch over you and your children.
     
  25. james_W_76
    Joined: Sep 27, 2007
    Posts: 39

    james_W_76
    Member

    so sorry for you and your kids loss, but rest easy in knowing that your wife is in heaven above. let your babies know that she is not in pain and is looking out for them evey day. pm me any time if you need anything. and as for the flathead parts i got a buddy here in tn that is flathead crazy, so let me know when and where you post the stuff forsale and i'll let him know. take care brother...
     
  26. 1950heavymetal
    Joined: Sep 9, 2008
    Posts: 323

    1950heavymetal
    Member

    Hearing this news took my breathe away and I'm so so sorry James. Our thoughts and prayers are with you.
    I would like to help you out as well so you dont have to sell your car. If your interested could you post your paypal?
     
  27. Very good advice.

     
  28. Finnrodder
    Joined: Oct 18, 2009
    Posts: 2,970

    Finnrodder
    Member
    from Finland

    Sorry for your and your kids loss.
     

  29. James,

    I lost my niece Stephanie in March, 1 month after her 36th birthday from a 3 year battle with cancer. So sorry for your loss and it looks like your focus is where it should be. Stay strong for the kids and remember all the good times. Sometimes life makes no sense and you have to take one day at a time. My thoughts and prayers are with you and hang in there man, Scruff.
     
  30. 067chevy
    Joined: Sep 18, 2005
    Posts: 2,073

    067chevy
    Member

    So sorry for your loss. Prayers to you and your family.
     

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