internet "bullying" on the HAMB

Speaking of Hoodlums, when your buddy's down, you kick him 'til he pees red . . . It's a bonding thing.

 

Like my dad used to say .If you cant say anything nice about somebody .Keep your mouth shut. THEN HE WOULD WACK ME!!!! lol.Bruce.

 

The HAMB is a stroll in the park compared to life. As far as I know it won't give you cancer.

 

EEEEEEEWWWWWWEEEEEEE!!! Touchy...Feeley... All nicey-nice and PC. First your telling "Hot Rod Questions" to build a street rod to have a dependable commuter and now this. Are all the Hard Core Traditionalist still hung over from LSR? I wouldn't put Cad taillights on anything I own.........Well, maybe tunneled in on the '53 Merc in the back yard.

 

Or on a swap meet table,IMHO all they look good on is a caddy. HRP

 

After reading all this, my conclusion is that we need a group hug.

Opinions on the net can be harsh. There are assholes out there. So is life. Move on.

The HAMB of old had moments of being direct with the opinions. Not all bad. I find enough PC crap everywhere else.

Neal

 

Sorry, I gotta pass on the manhug.

 

I've walked away from the HAMB for months at a time as well. Actually the only guy NOT on my ignore list is porknbeaner.

 

Is this the thread you are referring to? HRP

http://www.jalopyjournal.com/forum/threads/i-hate-my-tail-lights.959884/

 

Just went through the entire tread and don't think any "Bullying" went on. That is just my opinion. For me Breaking Balls is part of the fun of being on the HAMB. As for the car I think stock lights fit the overall style of it. Again I am here to meet new friends and have some fun with old ones while trying to learn something. If I want serious shit I'll go back to work!

 

I find it best not to get in a piss'n contest with a skunk. They are what they are

 

"Thanks for all your ideas and slams, as I have no hot rodders here in Harlan iowa to converse with. As for the guys with their "perfect " cars, I bet I can find 10 things wrong with each of them in 10 minutes!"
Revisited and did not see any bullying that I see that stands out, although apparently his feelings were hurt by some of the "rough" comments /opinions.

 

Don't let it bother you......and as said, it is mild now compared to some time ago..
There are a whole lot of very fine people here, who love to help out and share with you.
Like any forum, where you can be a wanna be typing on your computer hiding behind your walls, there are a few of them too..(I call them "Can Rats".)
Overall, this is the best place to get real info, and not for a cost....and speaking of cost..this great forum is FREE too...so we just gotta accept what pops up on our screens when we post anything.....
And yes I remember your thread....

 

x2. I just went back through the entire thread and saw nothing that would be remotely considered 'bullying'; just a few guys that said "I told you so"...apparently a reference to an earlier "what do you think..." thread. Didn't see any moderated posts either.

As I see it, there are two options...ignore the folks who have differing opinions and do your own thing or don't post an open-ended question soliciting ideas/opinions. I think a lot of folk have grown tired of the "what color should I paint it", "whaddya think about red wheels", and "is a SBC better than a flathead" type threads - so you're probably going to get a double-barrel shot of honesty (or opinion) when you 'go there'.

Reminds me of an email I got a few months ago dealing with the female "demerit system";
If she asks, "Do I look fat?" (you lose 5 points)
You hesitate in responding. (-10 points)
You reply, "Where?" (-35 points)
You give any other response. (-40 points)
(Yes, you lose points no matter what)

A good 'rule of thumb' (if the response might possibly crush your psyche) is to not ask...personally, I try to keep my mouth shut and my mind open - especially when I've asked for advice.

 

Harvesting for opinions is gonna turn up some shit.
Some folks thrive on conflict.
There's so much negative stuff out there, as a personal rule I try to only post positive comments.
Hope ya find better taillights

 

Car shows are full of assholes too.
Electronic communication is a horrible format for most things other than data.
Anything placed on the Internet is open to feedback, right or wrong.

This thread was fun to read. Have a nice weekend, happy wrenching.

 

or, as my mother used to say, "just consider the source!"

 

Sometimes the intention of a post is lost in translation. Its hard to tell sometimes if someone is just ribbing you or actually serious. Thats why a lot of people use the emoticons. If you get a nasty post, just think of it as some dude trying but failing to be funny. And if he isn't, screw him because he is unimportant in your life anyway.
Most guys hanging out in a garage are constantly saying nasty things to each other in jest, but its usually just the fun part of being a guy. A lot of women can't understand this and thats why they aren't allowed in my garage. Call me a name and I figure you must like me or you would have ignored me.

 

I posted on that thread. If agreeing with the OP that his taillights were less than optimal in appearance makes me a bully, then a badass I am. Looking back at the photos, I could have said some things that came to mind then (& now), but didn't. I also didn't read the entire thread. Just wanted to see if I was an offender. If you are not able to do the work required to change them, live with the way they look. Flatter lenses may be an option, but I don't know if anyone makes something that fits into that housing. And, realize, anything posted on the HAMB most likely will get some ribbing from tough crowd around here. **comment originally posted here, was deleted by 1pickup, so as to not offend anyone**

 

It's only known to cause cancer in independent testing in the state of California.....

 

Steve McQueen smacked Ali Macgraw around. I'm good with not being a Steve McQueen.

I never really looked a the HAMB as the "internet" but rather one big garage. Most of us talk smack to our friends in the garage.

Fair point that I'm not the one that has to clean up the messes though.

 

***
As Ryan said in his last sentence..."
2. Never, never... no matter the situation... talk shit on the internet. I know it's hard sometimes... And no one is perfect... But the very instance you talk shit to someone on the internet, you lose McQueen credibility. In other words, you look like a moron.[/QUOTE]"

...& when you google a 10 or 15 year old thread up...you may have mellowed, but you'll still look like a moron.
So most things you post in haste, anger, or just jokingly, are pretty much captured forever.
So think of it like a selfie-pic, do you really want your boss, friends, kids, grandkids, etc to see you like that plastered all over the internet?

 

What's going on here, is this car talk shrink talk

 

Yeah, I just quickly scanned the thread but I think Ryan is saying if we don't stop talking shit, Steve McQueen is going to come and kick our asses.

Seriously though, Ryan's rule #2 is a pretty good one for several reasons. I know I got sucked into a couple of virtual "fist fights" when I first joined, but now I think I've become a calmer, cooler, mellower "self". On the other side of the coin, you can't go through life being constantly offended by your fellow man or view yourself as a victim. Who needs the stress anyway?

 

I didn't see any bullying on that thread. you have to remember you took one of the top 5 best looking cars ever and put the most hated tail lights of all time on it. you were bound to get negative opinions, and you don't even like them yourself.

 

Yea, most of us are car guys and no when to keep our mouths shut

 

I've dealt with the public in mass quantities for over thirty years n I turned 43 today. Learning to let stuff roll off your shoulders ain't easy at first but when you master it life rolls on in a smoother fashion. Ive befriended the biggest of "a" holes because they can tell who's a pushover & easy prey & they're really some ok fellas. You ain't gonna please everybody a must get that down, forget it n move on. Remember my motto " Everybody's normal till you get to know them". or should it be all egos are not created equal? Everybody needs to dirt track race it'll teach one to stand up for yourself. Talk about egos ! Ohh n I like a deck lid on an a model once saw it said "built to please me not you". Amen. Flux. Good topic.

 

The only thing I saw in that thread were people bashing his body work and panel alignment. He asked about taillights and people bashed his work.