View Full Version : Sad day from South of Koolsville...
Just sitting here looking back on what has to be the worst day of my semi-short life. Some of you replied to my "I'm going to be a dad" post. To those who did, thanks. Last night at about 11pm my wife miscarried my baby. Granted, it was only 5 or 6 weeks old, but, I still had big plans. It's really amazing how much a persons life can climb so high on 2 words and then sink so low on just 2 more words. This emotional rollercoaster ride fuckin' sucks. I want off and my money back. I know this thing happens to other people all the time but it's 1000 times more difficult when it happens to you. Tammy is really taking this well. We are both taking tomorrow off to just be together and work through this. Ya know, sometimes ya just need to step back and take a good, deep look at yourself and try to figure out what really is the most important thing in your life. Thanks for letting me rant and get this tremendous weight off my shoulders for a few minutes.
rickyracer1962
10-28-2003, 10:51 PM
fuck. that sucks. sorry to hear that man.
hotrodladycrusr
10-28-2003, 11:04 PM
I'm really sorry to hear the news. Your wife might seem really strong on the outside right now but just hold her tight for as long as you can. You both need each others strenght. My heart goes out to the both of you.
55olds88
10-28-2003, 11:08 PM
That does suck, I only have my daughter every second weekend and its amazing how the little tikes change your life, I couldn't imagine my life with out her now. (2 1/4 y/o).
I feel for you and your lady http://www.jalopyjournal.com/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/frown.gif
JK,
I have no idea what to say man..Hearing this has saddened me in a big way..
Be strong, for the wife and yourself...
you guy's are in my thought's .
Tony.
fab32
10-28-2003, 11:13 PM
Thats one tough bit of news. Especially following your glad tidings just a short time ago. Help each other share the burden of this and look forward to trying again. Little ones are a precious gift, I'm sure there are some in your future. My condolences to you both.
Frank
Action Girl
10-28-2003, 11:14 PM
My heart goes out to you and your wife JK. Some very close friends of ours just went through the same thing.
Hang onto eachother and you'll make it through to happier times.
From a medical standpoint, miscarriages aren't all that uncommon and the truth is that if she got pregnant to begin with chances are excellent that you'll have a successful pregnancy in the future. There's a reason that this one didn't take and her body knows that better than anyone.
Hang in there and let us know if we can do anything.
Stacey
OldSub
10-28-2003, 11:22 PM
Our hearts go out to you.
Not long ago my wife and mother were talking. We lost one 18 years ago, my sister 24 years ago and my mom lost one 38 years ago. My mom said she still hurts and cries when she thinks about the one she lost
If your wife is like my wife or mother she will need your support for a long time.
candyman
10-28-2003, 11:23 PM
I am sorry man. I went through this early in the year and I can feel the pain still. I was lucky however and ended up not actually losing my baby. God Bless. My wife is having a c section on tuesday. Healthy baby boy. This has been the longest and shortest 9 months of life all in one. I will never know why God spared my son but I can only feel blessed that he did. Every day of my sons life he will be a special kid. One that God had plans for. I also got a hell of a malpractice suite on my hands as well. That ends up being cool because we get a nice 49 mercury out of the ordeal! http://www.jalopyjournal.com/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/grin.gif Hold yer chin high my friend. Life can't hold you down forever. Just press on. Like a splinter ya just wedge yerself deeper in and make it bitch to take ya out!
El Caballo
10-28-2003, 11:24 PM
We lost our first that way. It really does set you on your ear emotionally. You started to get used to the idea of being a dad, and now it is gone. Just be supportive of your wife and your time will come aain.
choprods
10-28-2003, 11:33 PM
Im saddened to hear the news,My sympathy is with you and your wife. you have been affected I can tell and it will be hard to recover. also it will be severely difficult to bear for your wife, so be compassionate with her in this time and it will help her along too. it will also help your dealing with it by helping her with the pain and letdown. I have a son who is 25 years old now. He was on of identical twins. they were premature and he only weighed 2.8 ounces, unfortunately the other son was not mature enough in development of his lungs ,so he only survived 2 days. my son was in the hospital ICU for 7 weeks before we could bring him home. this was a hard time for us and more harder for my wife,being without him as well as losing one too. we had a hard time [for a long time] so if you can get some insight from our circumstances with our children I have shared with you-[I hope it will help you] to deal with yours. Sincerely,my best to you and yours.....
Mai Ki-Ki
10-28-2003, 11:43 PM
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Look after yourself man, and especially your lady.
MAiki
Rix2Six
10-28-2003, 11:44 PM
I'm sadden by your news pal. I think that Action Girl hit it though... miscarriages don't happen without reason. Maybe there was some problems some where. Anyways, hold on to your wife tightly and get strength from each other... it's going to be a tough few days but if you pull together, your marriage will get stronger. I know that's why my present marriage works and my 1st marriage didn't. When we struggle and life goes into the crapper, we turn towards each other and towards God and not away from each other.
God Bless you and your wife... My family will be praying for you to.
jk,
there's not one thing any of us can say that will make you feel better right now or make the hurt go away. but be assured that there are many of us on here who will be keeping you and tammy in our prayers and thoughts.
McGrath
10-29-2003, 12:23 AM
Damn man, that really sucks. Hopefully the next time goes better.
studeboy
10-29-2003, 03:03 AM
Sorry to hear this news. I can't imagine what you must be feeling. Don't give up on this though. My sister and my cousin both miscarried their first and now both have 3 kids. (My sister had twins the last time and she wants more) Support each other as best you can, and don't stop trying. You'll be in my prayers. Eric
=mike=
10-29-2003, 03:13 AM
always wait till the first week of the second trimester befor you start telling people , otherwise you are cursed .
seriously though , we lost one like that on accident . I cant imagine what it would feel like if we were trying to have a baby . I feel bad for you man , but there is always next time . make the memmory of this one live in the body & life of the next one .
Skate Fink
10-29-2003, 04:18 AM
http://www.jalopyjournal.com/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/frown.gif Our prayers are with you both........
beatnik
10-29-2003, 07:26 AM
You both have my sympathies. Life can definitely be an emotional rollercoaster. I think your doing the best thing you can do, by taking the time to work through this and comfort each other.
Sorry, my prayers are with you and your wife.
Roothawg
10-29-2003, 07:41 AM
Man, I am truly sorry to hear it Bro. http://www.jalopyjournal.com/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/frown.gif
Keep the faith.....
Fat Hack
10-29-2003, 07:45 AM
Very sorry to hear that, JK...I know a few people that this has happened to and it's a hard thing to swallow. I hope evrything works out for you and your wife. You're doing the right thing by being together after this...feel better soon, man.
roadstar
10-29-2003, 07:51 AM
http://www.jalopyjournal.com/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/frown.gif http://www.jalopyjournal.com/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/frown.gifNo words just feelings http://www.jalopyjournal.com/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/frown.gif http://www.jalopyjournal.com/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/frown.gif
Petejoe
10-29-2003, 08:06 AM
Jk, I too lost a son and I know what emotions your going through. I can remember saying.. Thanks to my friends who allowed me to cry on their solder and their hugs which actually held me up and got me through to the next step. My son was 21 years old. You will never forget or stop hurting but I can assure you in time.. The pain does subside and you and your wife will carry on. I am so sorry for you guys. you are in my prayers.
kustombypook
10-29-2003, 08:56 AM
Sorry to hear that. I can only imagine the pain of losing a child. Keep your spirits up and tell the wife she is in our thoughts.
JK, you have our support.
We went through the same thing a few years back,
Also, had one stillborn.
Both are rough.
We had the support of our parents and close friends
It is the low points in your life that will make you stronger.
Hang in there, and give each other love. strength, and understanding.
Time will not erase memories, but will soften the blow.
Here's hoping the best for you and may God bless you with another child, healthy and full of life.
Jim
krupanut
10-29-2003, 09:41 AM
I'm truely sorry.
Remember,
You still have each other.
Hang in there bro.
Thanks alot guys and gals. Tammy has finally realized that it did happen for a reason and not because of something she did. She's taking it alot better than I thought she would for the day after. We'll make it though this rough spot and carry on. Thanks for thinkin about us. http://www.jalopyjournal.com/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/grin.gif
Dooley
10-29-2003, 10:03 AM
Sorry!! We went through the same before our second was born. My prayers are with you and your wife. Don't give up!!
RileyRacing
10-29-2003, 10:04 AM
Sorry. Hang in there! God works in mysterious ways...
Jason
straykatkustoms
10-29-2003, 10:07 AM
I'm really sorry JK, our prayers will be with you and your family.
Mick
raven
10-29-2003, 10:12 AM
You have my deepest sympathies.
I lost two due to miscarriages.
(not me personally, my girlfriend...)
You are in my prayers, God bless.
Keep the faith.
r
Dat Dirty Rat
10-29-2003, 10:46 AM
Keep your head up holmes and support/comfort your girl. Its a tough time but you'll get through it. I know the pain feel and it sucks..I know this situation may never be forgotten but sooner or later you'll find happiness to share with us again...Take care of yourselves and I wish you the best!...Dirty
Steve
10-29-2003, 10:51 AM
man Im sorry to hear that.
hammeredabone
10-29-2003, 11:41 AM
Sorry to hear that,JK. My sisters both had that happen and next pregnancy was successful for both of them. I hope you will try again, I heard it said that it is the best thing to do. Best Wish's for you and your wife.
chromedRAT
10-29-2003, 12:17 PM
sorry to hear about that, man. condolences...
safariknut
10-29-2003, 12:29 PM
My heart goes out to you and your wife JK.I was going to relate to you how I know your pain but even after 20 years it is hard for me to discuss it.And what you need now more than anything is for you and your wife to be supportive of each other.Hang in there brother.
safariknut
MoFoMOD
10-29-2003, 12:40 PM
Sorry to hear that bro... keep your chin up.
mytlo56
10-29-2003, 12:48 PM
JK-
The fetus likely had something wrong w/ it and the miscarriage was for a definite reason, or so says my mother-in-law who is an OB/GYN.
I know it is difficult, but hang in there and know that it wasn't meant to be this time around.
Take care,
Anthony
38Chevy4door
10-29-2003, 01:12 PM
I know it doesn't mean much, but I'm sorry, especially with how excited you were over it. Both of you be strong...it'll happen.
Steve
MrExotica
10-29-2003, 01:22 PM
We're really to hear that. I can't begin to imagine what that feels like.
My sister-in-law miscarried, then was on bedrest for a good part of her second try. She ended up having a wondeful little girl, my goddaughter.
Someday, my wife & I hope to have a little tyke running around, and we pray we don't have to go through that.
Keep trying, & stay positive. Our thoughts are with you.
horty
10-29-2003, 01:28 PM
jk sorry to hear this, I feel for you and your lady, the passage of time will help to heal your pain, let time have its way, your in my prayers later horty
TagMan
10-29-2003, 07:44 PM
You and your wife are in our prayers.
Kilroy
10-29-2003, 07:56 PM
Dude I know it sucks, but it happens. It's not uncommon at all. That's why they tell you not to tell anyone for 3 months.
If you guys are ready for kids, just keep trying. It'll happen. Plus it's fun work. http://www.jalopyjournal.com/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/blush.gif
Honest
10-29-2003, 09:02 PM
Same story here...just give it time..it will happen
Time heals..
Jimmy
10-29-2003, 09:42 PM
I'm sorry to hear your news. You have my deepest sympathies.
It a hard thing to go through emotionally but you seem to be going about it the right way by working through this together. As others have said , the body knows what it needs to do. Don't let this discourage you from trying again.
34Fordtk
10-29-2003, 09:47 PM
So sorry man http://www.jalopyjournal.com/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/frown.gif http://www.jalopyjournal.com/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/frown.gif Keep your chin up!
Deuce Roadster
10-29-2003, 10:14 PM
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Been there....done that.........
It happened to my wife and I in 1981..........
You never forget.......but life will go on.
My prayers will include you and Tammy.
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Toqwik
10-29-2003, 10:50 PM
Thoughts and prayers for you both....Scott
ESnacky6
10-29-2003, 11:14 PM
I know this may sound kinda wierd,
but I truly do believe that eveything that happens,
happens for a reason...
My younger sister had a miscarriage...
it was not the right time for her...(highschool..!!)
Now at 28, she has a healthy 20-month-old girl...
About two months ago, a good friend of mine lost his wife
during childbirth..!!!(her uterus burst, got uterin poisoning(?)
in her bloodstream and had a heart attack..!!)
She was only 37 or 38... the baby girl lived...
Now my buddy(at 50 yrs. old mind you...)
gets to raise his new daughter
(and his wifes 14 yr. old daughter...yikes..!!)
all by himself...
Things happen in the wierdest/lamest/saddest of ways sometimes...
but always for a reason...
I'm sorry for your loss...
Good luck in life, and better luck next time..!!
pikesan99
10-30-2003, 01:37 AM
Everything's already been said. I just wanted to add my support and best wishes. Hang in there.
BUICKNAILHEAD
10-30-2003, 02:43 AM
It must be a saying older n dirt but "These things happen for a reason" you will get through this no problem. I have been there as well. Brighter days ahead!!! http://www.jalopyjournal.com/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/wink.gif
fuel pump
10-30-2003, 07:12 AM
Time heals all and you and your wife will have better days ahead. God has a way of rewarding those that suffer through such a loss. Stay strong for your wife.
lil mike
10-30-2003, 08:55 AM
Dude, that suck major ass! You ain't the only one that had big plans for that "LiL" Ratty Bastard. From someone of bad misfortune- everything happens for a reason!
Roothawg
10-30-2003, 10:00 AM
Lil Mike, glad to see you could make it.
Most everyone here knows OF you already...flaming shopping carts and all.
Sorry to hijack your post JK.
29EHV8
10-30-2003, 10:35 AM
A few years ago my brother and his wife were trying to have a baby and it wasn't happening.They went to a doctor and got tested and the doc said my sister-inlaw won't ever be able to have kids.They were devestated.About two months later she was pregnent.They told everyone that they were pregnent.The girls at her work did up a lil thing about it congratulating them in the work newsletter over the weekend.When she came to work on the monday morning they suprised her with a gift for the baby and showed her the article.Well she had miscarried over that weekend.So my brother and her were naturally devestated again.They thought well I guees we can't have kids.Well a few months later she was preggy again and they didn't tell anyone except for a few of us family members until they were bout 4 months along.I now have two really kewl lil nephews from them!The docs were wrong.
Keep faith JK,your time will come to being called 'daddy,daddy' and there aint nothing better to hear in all your life.Good luck,give your wife a big HAMB hug from all of us.........Shiny
Crease
10-30-2003, 12:44 PM
Can't tell you how sorry I am to hear about it. God bless you and your wife.
Chris
Sancho
10-30-2003, 12:52 PM
I feel for you guys. I know it's tough.
I need to make it back down there again and see everyone.
Not to change the subject but I'll never forget you, me,
and Lil' Mike at the bar arguing over who was going to beat the
crap outta that 70's disco reject that kept touchin Tammy!
Sailor
10-30-2003, 02:38 PM
I have been there two times, bro. Dont know quite how to put this, but no matter how painful it was for me, it was worse for my girl. So take good care of your wife. Like most things it will pass and be a shadow in the horizon in a while, and life will go on. Keep your faith and help her keeping hers.
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